By: Andrew Leedham

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#1: the key to unlock your natural success mindset

• everyone was born with natural confidence, in many cases our environment and expose makes us less confident. this is were the unlearning phase comes in to allow our natural confidence kick in
• the human mind, my mind is a miracle
• a good example is a new born baby: they don't see any limits, they don't feel a sense of not belonging
• instead of thinking you have to become something you are not, you need to reconnect to who you truly are
• “do you live life on your terms or someone else’s”
• you created the life you are living today just like everyone else. the problem is that you weren't consciously aware of the plan you were working to, the one that was given to you by your parents, teachers and friends.
• where does my model of the world come from?
• TWO VERY IMPORTANT QUESTIONS THAT DRIVES PEOPLE'S DECISIONS
  • am I enough?
  • will I be loved?
• our darkest fear often hidden away is that somehow, in some way, we are not enough or that we are in some way fundamentally unlovable.
• if you want to live a life that makes sense, the first step you've got to take is to stop following a blueprint you didn't even create.
  • step 1: become aware that you are following someone else's blueprint, someone else's design for your life and that you've lost touch with what you, the real you wants.
  • step 2: shift your identity, your sense of who you are
• “everything about who and how we operate in the world flows from how we see ourselves”
• the way we talk, our body language, the eye contact we make, the way we express what we think and feel, the level to which we stand up for ourselves, the confidence we have - all stems from our self-perception.
• if you see yourself as worthy and deserving, if you are proud of who you are and confident of your place in the world, then your behaviours, your choices and your body language will align with that, naturally and without effort. it is easy, natural and congruent.
• confidence and success isn't about changing away from who you are. it is about changing back to the person you always were.
• TWO KINDS OF MINDSETS
  • fixed mindset
    • Intelligence and ability are static
    • leads to a desire to look smart and therefore a tendency to…
      • avoid challenges
      • give up easily
      • see effort as fruitless
      • ignore useful negative feedback
      • feel threatened by the success of others
    • as a result, may plateau early and achieve less than their full potential
    • they need approval and external validation as a means of reinforcing their internal sense of their fixed traits
  • growth mindset
    • intelligence and ability can be developed
    • leads to a desire to learn and therefore a tendency to…
      • embrace challenges
      • persist in the face of setbacks
      • see efforts as the path to mastery
      • learn from criticism
      • find lessons and inspiration in the success of others
    • as a result they reach ever higher levels of achievement
    • they are driven to learn rather than seek approval
    • they have a hunger to learn because they know that they will get better, stronger, more powerful through experience and deliberate practice
    • they see failure as a pure learning experience
    • instead of being ashamed of their flaws, they shine a bright light on them and have a passion for learning how to overcome them.
• learning and more importantly living the growth mindset profoundly changes your experience of life.