By: Emerson Eggerichs

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#1: the perfect marriage equation exists

• Marriage should always have two components, love and respect
• Men most times prioritize respect over love
• Women prioritize love over respect
• When men feel respected they reciprocate with love
• A successful marriage requires mutual effort and reciprocation of energy btw both spouses

#2: why men and women clash

• There is no perfect marriage because finding people who perfectly complement each other is difficult.
• 3 stages partners might go through towards a happy marriage
  • Crazy cycle: a turbulent period of marriage marked by miscommunications
  • Energizing cycle: when you understand each other's needs and find a common ground
  • Rewarded cycle: a peaceful period of mutual love and respect
• Different doesn't always mean incompatible
• Try to find a way to compliment you and your partner's unique aspects
• 5 out of 10 marriages end in divorce
• For example: “I don't have anything to wear”
  • Men mean: I don't have clean clothes
  • Women mean: I need some new clothes, worn everything I have

#3: getting into couple philosophy

• Husbands the key to your happiness is “COUPLE”
  • Closeness
  • Openness
  • Understanding
  • Peacemaking
  • Loyalty
  • Esteem